Today's Hot Topic conversation finally tackles a common theme among our Shandies' relationship questions over the last 2 years: What to do when one partner wants to get frisky way more than the other? Shan Boodram, our esteemed expert joining us today, could not be more qualified to take on this subject: Shan is a certified sexologist and sex and intimacy educator, among her many other qualifications, and she helps us navigate how to broach the topic of wanting more sex, how to work towards raising one's own libido, how to communicate likes/dislikes in the bedroom (without killing the mood), and how to get back into sexy time postpartum. Shan is as fun as she is knowledgeable and we guarantee you'll both laugh and learn something new throughout this conversation!More Shan:Book "The Game Of Desire" - https://www.thegameofdesire.com/buyLovers And Friends Podcast - https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/id1586679298Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/shanboody/Website - https://www.shanboodram.comShan's Turn-On Trigger Quiz - https://www.thegameofdesire.com/quizTime Stamps:0:00 - Welcome To Sexologist And Intimacy Educator Shan Boodram!3:16 - What Is Sexology And Why Did She Get Into It?8:36 - Tips For Couples Navigating Mismatched Libidos13:55 - Does Bringing It Up More Scare It Away?20:14 - For The Partner Who Wishes They Wanted Sex More27:56 - Comfort and Familiarity29:29 - Turn-On Triggers31:12 - Where’s The Line Between Maintaining A Sex Life With A Low Libido Versus Agreeing To Have Sex When You Don’t Want To? 35:44 - Does More Beget More?37:55 - Advice For Sex And Intimacy Postpartum 40:53 - Tips For Orgasming43:44 - Tips On How To Get A Partner To Change What They’re Doing Without Killing The Mood?46:12 - True Or False: Ejaculation Is Good For Men’s Health50:32 - Thoughts On Today’s Swipe Culture And Dating Climate 57:42 - Shandy DebriefIf you have a relationship question, write us at: dearshandy@gmail.comSupport Dear Shandy: https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donationsSubscribe and watch the episodes on YouTube! https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandyMore Dear ShandyInstagram - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandyFacebook - https://fb.me/dearshandyMore SharleenInstagram - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoyntBlog - http://www.alltheprettypandas.comMore AndyInstagram - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevineProduced by Gabrielle Galon - https://www.instagram.com/gabsamillionSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy