On this episode: Jamilah, Elizabeth, and Zak answer a question from a dad who is fed up with his four-year-old not listening. For the first time, he lost his temper and swatted her butt. He feels terrible and wants to know how to apologize. But he also wants to know how to get her to listen if a situation arises where something serious is going on and she needs to follow directions.
Recommendations
Zak: Letting your little ones pour their own syrup. 
Elizabeth: Beast Academy Math
Jamilah: America, Goddam: Violence, Black Women, and the Struggle for Justice by Treva B. Lindsey 
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