Some things you should consider if your crotch is on fire, and your intimate needs are not being fulfilled in your current relationship.  

In this video coaching newsletter I discuss an email from a sixty-four year old woman who works in a correctional facility. Her husband is 74, has no libido and he considers eating a nice meal and going to bed early a great life. They have been married for almost forty years. She said their life is boring, but she loves him. Since she started working her current job, another male guard has been flirting and showing her attention. She says she would never leave her husband, but her crotch is on fire for this other guy and wants to have an affair, but is torn on what she should do out of loyalty to her husband and family. She has needs that he appears to be unwilling or unable to fulfill. She asks my opinion.