Mel Cassidy is a relationship coach and sex-positive nerd who guides social misfits and cultural rebels to experiences of joyful, embodied, authentic open relationships. Mel has also been engaging in a relationship with psychedelics since they helped Mel heal after multiple miscarriages earlier in life. Mel joins us on Adventures Through The Mind to explore how their models of understanding and engaging human relationships apply to understand and engaging our relationship to psychedelics, psychedelic healing, and psychedelic communities. --LINKS-- For links to Mel's work, full show notes, and to watch this episode in video, head to https://bit.ly/ATTMind115   ***Full Topics Breakdown Below   --- SUPPORT THIS PODCAST —  Patreon: https://patreon.com/jameswjesso Donations: https://www.paypal.me/JWJesso Merchandise: https://www.jameswjesso.com/shop/ More options: https://www.jameswjesso.com/support/   Newsletter: https://www.jameswjesso.com/newsletter   *** Extra BIG thanks to my patrons on Patreon for helping keep this podcast alive! Especially, Thomas & Melanie H, Clea S, Steven B, James R, Dean H, Joe A, Andy D, Stephen B, Ian C, David W, Don J, Yvette FC, Ann-Madeleine, Dima B, & Chuck W ----- Episode Breakdown How psychedelics helped Mel heal through multiple miscarriages Building a relationship to psychedelic medicine Are psychedelics agents or tools? Value difference in how different cultures view non-human elements of life Two sides of me-centered relationships with psychedelics: materialism and spiritual bypassing The risk of losing our deep cultural to psychedelics in favor of the capitalist and medical agendas of psychedelic legislation How Canadian cannabis legalization screwed over generational cannabis farmers The 4 layers of relations and their associated fears Why we rush into intimacy before receiving safety and the consequences on our nervous system The dangers of using psychedelics as merely objects to get our needs met How dysfunctional relating behaviors may express themselves in psychedelic communities The vital importance of layers of safety and knowledge of boundaries before journeying with psychedelics Being “traditional trained shaman” doesn’t necessarily mean they are a safe provider The risks/benefits of surrendering our control to a shaman or healer Treating our psychedelic experiences the same way we treat our sexuality Sexuality cautions and considerations as a model for engaging in psychedelic experiences Four things to ask/discuss before sex or a medicine journey look at your fears; talk about your hopes/desires talk about your boundaries aftercare Our aftercare processes for both sexual and psychedelic experience The failures of group-shunning Exploring the presence of and complexities of sexual abuse in psychedelic communities Steve Bearman’s interchange was a cult The dangers of supremacy stretch whiten psychedelic communities. Dyadic relationships do not exist in isolation “open window check-in” Both supremacy and trauma create similar problems Supremecy structures within shamanic communities The deep healing needed for our relationships   --- SUPPORT THIS PODCAST —  Patreon: https://patreon.com/jameswjesso Donations: https://www.paypal.me/JWJesso Merchandise: https://www.jameswjesso.com/shop/ More options: https://www.jameswjesso.com/support/   Newsletter: https://www.jameswjesso.com/newsletter   --- BOOKS —    Decomposing The Shadow: https://www.jameswjesso.com/decomposing-the-shadow/ The True Light Of Darkness: https://www.jameswjesso.com/true-light-darkness/   --- LINKS —    Website: https://www.jameswjesso.com/ Speaking Tour: https://www.jameswjesso.com/events/ Podcast: https://www.jameswjesso.com/podcast/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/jameswjesso Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/attmindpodcast/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/jameswjesso   --- PRODUCTS —    Art: https://www.jameswjesso.com/product-category/art/ Teeshirts: https://www.jameswjesso.com/product-category/clothing