This is a great sadness to me. When a wife steps out (even an inch) from her comfort zone and her husband mishandles this vulnerability.  Whether it's an inch sexually or in any part of their relationship...vulnerability should be appreciated and complimented and encouraged.  Your response to her discovery of more sexual freedom (big or small) should be, "Oh! How can I love HER more, too?" Not, "Oh, how can I perfect/change/improve her attempts?" Because the second piece undermines her sexual freedom. That is what saddens me and makes me pray that God will help me do this thing better.  That's why it grieves me at times that my podcast can be heard by both men and women... because the enemy WANTS your focus to be on yourself.  The enemy wants you to be focused on whether or not you're getting your "fair share". Or on "how can she love me better".  But if we can be more like Christ and put the focus on the other "how can I love her better?" How can her attempts to love me... inspire me to love HER!? That's the heart I believe God wants us to have around this topic.   This is a part of what our Masculinity Reclaimed program addresses.  Maybe you have lost all hope that intimacy could be different and you may think you're doing all the right things -- everything I teach you to do, right? But, if it's still not working, you haven't tried the program and that might be the step you're missing.  Listen to the testimonials please, because you'll hear some stellar men who were doing it "right" and just couldn't get there until they followed the program and got incredible breakthroughs.  Our whole team will give you 100%, we'd love to have you on the inside! Schedule a free Clarity Call to get started in our online courses to begin healing your marriage at delightyourmarriage.com/cc! Love, blessings, & prayers, Belah