Melissa Febos: The Gray Areas of Sex and Consent

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Melissa Febos: The Gray Areas of Sex and Consent

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Mar 23, 2021

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“Girlhood was a darker time for many than we’re often willing to acknowledge." Melissa Febos talks about her new essay collection, Girlhood (out on March 30th).
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Melissa Febos: The Gray Areas of Sex and Consent

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