Dr. Nan and her wonderful husband John joins us once again to answer: What can I do about selfish sex? What if I want more sex than my partner? How do I ask for what I want? And what is cuckolding and "hot wifing" all about? We also answer a sex question about anal sex for beginners.  Want to fast forward to the interview? Skip to minute 18.  About our guest: NAN WISE, Ph.D., is a cognitive neuroscientist, professor, licensed psychotherapist, certified sex therapist, board-certified clinical hypnotherapist, and certified relationship specialist. After almost twenty years in clinical practice, she became driven to understand how the brain creates moods and behaviors in relation to sex and other aspects of human experience. Having returned to academia to pursue a Ph.D. in cognitive neuroscience, she is now a cognitive neuroscience researcher at Rutgers University-Newark.  She is the author of the book Why Good Sex Matters and has contributed her expert opinion to outlets such as National Geographic, The Atlantic, Time, Glamour, Women’s Health Magazine, The Washington Post, HuffPost, Romper, and Bustle. To learn more visit askdoctornan.com   Other links: Get 10% off + free shipping with code SHAMELESSSEX on Uberlube AKA our favorite lubricant at uberlube.com Get $5 off while mastering the art of pleasure at OMGyes.com/shameless Get 20% off the Naughty or Nice Kit and Free Shipping with the code Shameless at LikeAKitten.com  Get turned on with 30 days free of super hot audio erotica at dipseastories.com/shameless Want to try one of our favorite boutique wines? Get 10% off of 3 bottles or more with code SHAMELESSSEX10 or 15% off of 6 bottles or more with come SHAMELESSSEX15 at marginswine.com Get 15% off all of your sex toys with code SHAMELESSSEX at purepleasureshop.com Buy some Shameless Sex swag while supporting a good cause when you visit teepublic.com/stores/shameless-sex-podcast