Three Mothers, One Bond | With Gaby Hoffmann

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Three Mothers, One Bond | With Gaby Hoffmann

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Jul 27, 2016

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Gaby Hoffmann, known for her Emmy-nominated role in the Amazon series "Transparent," as well as her work in HBO's "Girls," reads an essay about a couple navigating the complex waters of adoption.

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Jul 27, 2016

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