The number one question we are asked, is about simple living with kids: "Is it possible to simplify your life with kids?" Of course it is! Now we know not everyone has kids, but even if you don't you probably have nephews or nieces, or friends with kids. So, the good news is that even if you don’t have kids yourself, you’ll probably be able to apply a lot of this to other relationships in your life.



Well first off, simple living with kids doesn’t have to be an oxymoron. Like simplifying the rest of your life, simple living with kids will take some planning, work, and positive change, but it will be well worth it. Read more...


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Topic: Simple Living With Kids
Well worth it, yes...but notice I didn’t say “well worth it in the end.” That's because there really isn’t an end when it comes to simplicity...that’s why we call it a journey.

The “Stuff” Cycle:
Before we get into the different stages of our kids' lives and how that effects simplicity, there's something that needs to be addressed first. I call it the "Stuff Cycle"...for lack of a better term. If you don't realize you operate in a stuff cycle before you have kids, you will as soon as you're expecting. Here's how it goes:
Perceived Need Phase:




All the things advertisements tell you you need
All the things you ‘think’ you need
All the things everyone else ‘thinks’ you need and don’t hesitate to tell you



Acquire Phase:




Purchase, gift, rent or borrow



Utilization Phase:




You figure out what you really need and use



Replacement Phase




You fill those needs with things that actually work



Edit Phase:




You take action to get the things you don’t need, don’t use, and don’t work out of your life



Refine Phase:




Continuously evaluate, acquire, replace or upgrade as necessary, edit as required.



Simplicity Issues at Different Stages of Our Kids’ Lives
Babies:



Just making sure they are cared for requires so much (or we think it does)
Amount of stuff required at home...but babies grow up so fast that it's impossible to use every toy or clothing item 
Amount of stuff required on the road
Time and attention required


Toddlers:



First steps of independence
Just trying to stay ahead or just keep up parents feel they need to buy every learning gadget or tool so they are ahead when they start kindergarten


Kids:



Starting to understand commercials and get a taste for consumerism and wanting more

Brand name toys
Brand name clothes
Even exposure to peer pressure




Teens:



Consumerism: clothing, gadgets, food
More time commitments with extracurricular activity, work, etc.
As parents now it's crunch time to teach them the life skills to be successful adults.


Adults:



Are you responsible or do you hang on to your grown kids' "stuff" as they start their adult life?
Do they feel "entitled" to things beyond their income?
What's your comfort level or threshold for monetary support?


Ways to Keep Simple Living With Kids, Simple!


Toys and Gifts

Family members go overboard (time for a talk)
Birthday parties (manage expectations)
Holidays (manage expectations)






Boundaries

Not every room is the play room (CELF study, Episode 14)
Don't buy more storage for more toys...edit the old to make room for the new...create a boundaries or limit of how many toys your kids can have
Limit screen time
Personal chores (clean up after self)
Family chores (team building, contributing)






Routines and Rituals are key to simple living with kids

They make kids comfortable and let them know what's expected of them
We're creatures of habit...good or bad
Morning
After school routines

Snack
Homework