When Your D/s is Out of Sync

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When Your D/s is Out of Sync

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Jul 5, 2019

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Earlier this week, we were out of sync — we weren’t in tune with each other in terms of kink. John Brownstone went too hard, too fast, and I didn’t speak up when I...
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