A lot of things you take personally in relationship have very little to do with your partner. Those issues are really the result of YOUR past, YOUR triggers and YOUR perspective...So says long-time Boulder, Colorado therapist & expert in the field of Child and Adult Attachment Theory and Models, Dr. Diane Poole Heller.  How The Therapy Field Chose Diane [7:00] Why The Attachment Model Is So Central To Diane’s Work [12:00] The Kind Eyes Exercise [19:00] The Three Attachment Styles [21:00] Why Are You Complaining About Your Great Partnership? [32:00] Starting A Relationship Revolution With Secure Attachment [41:00] The Effects of A Disorganized Relationship Environment [46:00] Diane’s Method For Repairing From A Damaging Relationship [52:00] Don’t Sabotage Your Healthy Relationship Because Of Your Attachment Issues [1:01:00] Why You Shouldn’t Try To Heal Trauma Alone [1:03:00] Using Mental Time Travel (Autonoesis) For Healing [1:08:00] Diane’s Take On Why People Experience Repeated Trauma [1:11:00] Diane’s Jem Of Advice For Young Adults & Not Taking Things Personally [1:17:00]   For the full Smart Couple Podcast webpage for this episode featuring Diane Poole Heller visit https://relationshipschool.net/podcast204