What are the common reasons people stray from their partners? How common is it and how do folks rebuild relationships after infidelity? And what is the "New Monogamy" all about?  We also answer a sex question: How can I reconnect to myself and learn to relax with my partner after sexual trauma? Dr. Tammy Nelson PhD is an internationally acclaimed psychotherapist and TEDx speaker and the author of several books including, “Getting the Sex You Want,  “The New Monogamy; and her latest book "When You're the One Who Cheats."  She has been a featured expert in the NY Times, Washington Post, Wall Street Journal, CNN, Rolling Stone Magazine, TIME, and a source in Time Magazine. She writes for Huffington Post, ThriveGlobal, Medium and has a new podcast, The Trouble with Sex.  Dr. Tammy is a Board Certified Sexologist, a Certified Sex Therapist and a Certified Relationship Therapist.  She can be found at drtammynelson.com   Some other links we talk about:  Get 10% off + free shipping with code SHAMELESSSEX on Uberlube AKA our favorite lubricant at uberlube.com Get $5 off while mastering the art of pleasure at OMGyes.com/shameless Get 15% off all of your sex toys with code SHAMELESSSEX at purepleasureshop.com Learn more about sexological bodywork with River Drosera at riverdrosera.life Access your free 30-day trial to Open Fit by texting sspodcast to 303030