#53 – Why You’re Doing It Matters

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#53 – Why You’re Doing It Matters

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Dec 18, 2018

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We all know having sex with our romantic partners is good for our relationship and sexual satisfaction. But WHY you're doing it can make a difference: Some reasons to have sex are better & healthier than other reasons. Optimizing your intimate life is partly about making sure you're doing "it" for the right reasons, and not doing it for the wrong reasons.

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Dec 18, 2018

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#3 – Brains of promiscuous men are different than those of monogamous men?: Dr. Zhana and Joe discuss a recent study authored by Dr. Lisa Dawn Hamilton. The brains of highly promiscuous men processed romantic information differently than the brains of highly monogamous men. This was not the case with sexual information - both ... by The Science of Sex
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#9 – Is Porn Bad for Your Marriage?: Can porn negatively impact a marriage? This week on The Science of Sex, Joe and Dr. Zhana went deeper into a rather controversial topic involving the impact that watching pornography can have on marital quality and longevity. by The Science of Sex
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#6 – How to get a Ph.D. in Threesomes: Is it really “not gay if it’s in a threeway?” In episode 6, Joe and Dr. Zhana speak with Dr. Ryan Scoats, a man who according to the New York Post “got his PhD in threesomes.” by The Science of Sex
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#8 – What happens to women’s brains when they orgasm?: What is really going on in the female brain before, during, and after an orgasm? This week, Joe and Dr. Zhana talk to Dr. Nan Wise, who published a study in the Journal of Sexual Medicine that disputed past research of brain scans of women during orgas... by The Science of Sex
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#25 – Do Women have a Sexual Orientation?: In episode 25, Dr. Zhana and Joe talk to J. Michael Baily about sexual orientation: What is it and do women have one? Sexual orientation, although widely agreed upon to exist, is still disputed by some in the scientific community. by The Science of Sex
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#33 – Kink V Abuse: In episode 33, Dr. Zhana and Joe talk to Dulcinea Pitagora about what marks the difference between abuse versus consensual kink in a relationship. - Many believe that because BDSM is founded upon consent, communication, by The Science of Sex
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#18 – Sex-Question-Palooza: This week, Joe and Dr. Zhana switched things up and decided to answer some questions we’ve been asked by listeners! Talking about a range of topics including, cuckolding, open relationships, blowjobs, pubic hair, consent, and more! by The Science of Sex
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#15 – Once a cheater, always a cheater: Once a cheater, always a cheater…right? In our 15th episode, Joe and Dr. Zhana spoke with Kayla Knopp, the lead author on a study that focuses on the likelihood of “serial cheating” in individuals. by The Science of Sex
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#17 – Everything You Always Wanted to Know About Cuckolding: Could cuckolding be a positive thing for some couples? A new study investigates fantasies about and experiences with cuckolding in a large and diverse sample of gay-identified men. by The Science of Sex
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Holiday Special Edition #2 – Dr. Zhana Live from SSSS: This week is the first holiday special of The Science of Sex, live from The Society for the Scientific Study of Sexuality (SSSS). SSSS is an international organization dedicated to the advancement of knowledge about sexuality, and in November, Dr. by The Science of Sex
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#26 – Pedophilia Explained: In episode 26, Things got a little heavy in this episode where we talked to James Cantor about his research on pedophilia. by The Science of Sex
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#39 – Snapchat Sex Chat: In Episode 39, Dr. Zhana and Joe talk with Jimmy Moran on Snapchat use and sex! Do people really use snapchat for sexual purposes? How common is this? What's the difference between men's and women's use of the app? Tune in to find out. by The Science of Sex
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#30 – High Infidelity: In episode 30, Dr. Zhana and Joe talk to Dr. Dylan Selterman about the motivations for infidelity. Infidelity and cheating is interesting to study on the quantitative side. We can look at how many people cheat, the demographics of cheaters, etc., by The Science of Sex
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#24 – Pumps…Strap Ons…and The Rubber Penis Illusion: In episode 24, we explore some of the ways that people can treat erectile dysfunction without medication. There has been significant research conducted on those diagnosed with erectile dysfunction (ED). Many of those treatments include prescription med... by The Science of Sex
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#31 – Managing Low Sexual Desire: In episode 31, Dr. Zhana and Joe talk to Dr. Lori Brott about some ways that people can manage low sexual desire. Low sexual desire among women is thought to be common around the the time of menopause, and despite what people might assume, by The Science of Sex
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