We're joined by writer Lola Phoenix to talk about common non-monogamy advice and how it can sometimes miss the mark. Lola (pronoun: they) is a queer, non-binary disabled American living in the UK. Lola writes and produces a weekly advice column and podcast called Non-Monogamy help and has been previously published in Violet Blue’s Best Women’s Erotica. Lola also writes personal essays and articles on a variety of topics on social justice issues from gender to disability to poverty in publications like Talk Poverty, The Huffington Post, XO Jane, INTO, Pink News, Gay Star News, The Establishment, The Independent, and Everyday Feminism.If this show is helpful to you, consider joining our amazing community of like-minded listeners at patreon.com/Multiamory. You can also get access to ad-free episodes, group video discussions, bonus episodes, and more!Multiamory was created by Dedeker Winston, Jase Lindgren, and Emily Matlack.Our theme music is Forms I Know I Did by Josh and Anand.Please send us your feedback and questions to info@multiamory.com, find us on Instagram @Multiamory_Podcast, tweet at us @Multiamory, check out our Facebook Page, visit our website Multiamory.com, or you can leave us a voicemail at 678-MULTI-05. We love to hear from our listeners and we read every message.