Today I’m joined by Justice Schanfarber, a certified Hakomi Therapist and couples counsellor specialising in sex and relationships. He’s the author of two books, and several articles - some which have been published by The Huffington Post and The Good Men Project - and read by over ten million people in two hundred countries, and has been translated into six languages. In this interview we are discussing his book CONSCIOUS KINK FOR COUPLES: the beginners guide to using kinky sex and BDSM for pleasure, growth, intimacy, and healing. You’ll learn: What inspired Justice wrote this book What Justice means by “conscious kinky couples” The importance of examining our sex lives and relationships How to use kink for shadow integration 3 lessons we can all learn from conscious kinky couples Ritual sex vs spontaneous sex vs maintenance sex 3 important things to consider when exploring S&M or D&S dynamics What Erotic humiliation entails how to navigate the psychological challenges of stepping into a D&S relationship How to tolerate the tension of having multiple, and sometimes contradictory, self-identities, desires, callings and parts. Justice’s highly recommended Kink & BDSM resources The value of making distinctions between sex, intimacy and eroticism Enjoy!