Performance Focused Parenting | Part 2

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Performance Focused Parenting | Part 2

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Nov 13, 2018

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If we are attempting to ensure that we are training our children to be human beings not "human doings" then we need to first step back and examine ourselves.

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Nov 13, 2018

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Developing a Conscience in My Child | Part 5 by Parenting On Purpose
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Noticing Your Child’s Pain | Part 5: When We Are All Dealing With Pain When a whole family is coping with pain it is easy for the parent to deal with their own pain one of two ways.Â Â Either you can become completely self-focused in an attempt to cope with your pain or you can become comp... by Parenting On Purpose
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Taking Your Child From Stubborn to Determined with Torrey Roberts | Part 2: The Key: Consistency One of the house pops I had the privilege to work with in the residential homes at Sheridan House had a saying that he always used with the kids.Â It was â€œhard heads learn the hard way. by Parenting On Purpose
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When Your Child Shuts Down | Part 3: The Elementary Years Once your child passes the toddler years the likelihood of a total shutdown lessens. In fact if a shut down happens, as your child gets older, it can serve as a warning sign. Itâ€™s like one of those lights on your dash bored that al... by Parenting On Purpose
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When Your Child Shuts Down | Part 5: Preventing The Parent Shut Down It is very easy to give into the temptation of shutting down yourself as a parent. We have seen movies where a child goes into their room and slams the door, only to be followed by a parent retreating to their own room a... by Parenting On Purpose
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Noticing Your Child’s Pain | Part 2: Am I Available? There is a quote by Catherine Wallace, which has impacted me as a mom of young children, â€œListen earnestly to anything your children want to tell you, no matter what.Â If you donâ€™t listen eagerly to the little stuff when they are little... by Parenting On Purpose
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Training Your Child to Respect Authority with Torrey Roberts | Part 4: Having Fun Within The Boundaries of Respect One of the things that is amazing about setting up Â proper respect for authority in your home from early on, is it allows for more fun within the family.Â There must be a clear line set up but once those boun... by Parenting On Purpose
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Developing a Conscience in My Child | Part 3: From Conscience To Action A great story that illustrates how we go from conscience to action can be found in the Bible. Luke 10:25-37 25Â On one occasion an expert in the law stood up to test Jesus. â€œTeacher,â€ he asked, by Parenting On Purpose
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When Your Child Shuts Down | Part 4: The Middle/High School Years For a parent, the thought of a teenager shutting down may cause some anxiety. â€œWhat happens when they are bigger then I am and I canâ€™t physically make them follow my instructions? by Parenting On Purpose
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When Parents Don’t Agree â€“ Part 4: It can cause disagreements when a parent are being too lax or too hard on a child. During a parental staff meeting, always keep your goals in the forefront of the conversation. Some of the ultimate goals of parenting are raising a child to be a Godl... by Parenting On Purpose
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Developing a Conscience in My Child | Part 1: Start The Development In Your Childâ€™s Heart Websterâ€™s Dictionary defines conscience as, â€œthe sense or consciousness of the moral goodness or blameworthiness of oneâ€™s own conduct, intentions, or character together with a feeling of obligation to do righ... by Parenting On Purpose
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Noticing Your Child’s Pain | Part 3: Opening The Door For Communication After we have dealt with our availability to talk to our child, we need to figure out how to get them to talk.Â This may or may not be a difficult thing depending on the personality of the child, by Parenting On Purpose
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Noticing Your Child’s Pain | Part 1: Observing Your Childâ€™s Moods It is easy for us to see if our children donâ€™t feel good physically.Â They show physical symptoms of sickness, runny nose, fever, coughing; but what about if our child is in emotional pain? by Parenting On Purpose
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When Your Child Shuts Down | Part 1: What Does This Look Like? We have all seen a parent, or been the parent, with the child in the mall or the grocery store that is just done. They are past the point of a temper tantrum and are lying face down on the floor trying to make themselves as st... by Parenting On Purpose
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Dealing with Lying | Part 1: Why Does My Child Tell Lies? To deal with this difficult topic in parenting we must start by asking the question, what is lying? International Standard Bible Encyclopedia, Electronic Database defines a lie in this way; â€œIn its very essence, by Parenting On Purpose
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Training Your Child to Respect Authority with Torrey Roberts | Part 5: How To Appropriately Question Authority We want to raise critically thinking leaders and not blind followers.Â A skill thatâ€™s necessary to teach our children is how and when to appropriately question authority. by Parenting On Purpose
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When Your Child Shuts Down | Part 2: Toddlers When we think of a child shutting down we inevitably think of those toddler years. My mom and I have often laughed and said to each other, â€œitâ€™s a good thing that God makes toddlers so cuteâ€. They are so awesome, cute and pudgy, by Parenting On Purpose
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When Parents Don’t Agree â€“ Part 5: Children thrive under consistent boundaries. When parents are not on the same page these boundaries cannot be consistent. It can ultimately make the child feel very insecure. Children will even test this to see if mom and dad are on the same page. by Parenting On Purpose
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Becoming Your Spouseâ€™s Best Friend | Part 5: Attributes Of A Friend-Part 2 We are continuing yesterdayâ€™s study on what it looks like to be a best friend. Here are some more attributes and verses to study through. Best friends strive to become great encouragers. by Parenting On Purpose
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Developing a Conscience in My Child | Part 4: Cheering When Doing The Right Thing We have consistently mentioned that one of the most important things in parenting is encouraging our children when they make the right choice.Â It is not enough to discipline when they do the wrong thing; we must sho... by Parenting On Purpose
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When Parents Don’t Agree â€“ Part 1: Today's parent has many challenges to face. What do we do when one of those challenges is our spouse? by Parenting On Purpose
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Helping Your Pleaser Become A Leader | Part 3: Itâ€™s Never Too Late This should be one of our parenting mantras. It is never too late for our child, it is never too late to do the right thing, and it is never to late to start to make different choices as parents. Almost all parents, by Parenting On Purpose
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Helping Your Pleaser Become A Leader | Part 4: Training Them To Make Decisions Having difficulty making decisions can be a pitfall of the pleaser child.Â Â Some can be almost immobilized by the thought of making the wrong choice, so they shy away from making any choice. by Parenting On Purpose
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Taking Your Child From Stubborn to Determined with Torrey Roberts | Part 5: Keep The End Result In Mind We all need to remember that parenting is all about the process.Â I have to remind myself that I am raising a child NOT a mini adult.Â This is all about teaching and training and I need to keep that in mind in the day to day... by Parenting On Purpose
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Dealing with Lying | Part 5: Your Teen and Lying Lying is a scary thing to deal with at any age, but especially in teenagers. Parents can feel so helpless because there are so many areas that a teen can make life altering decisions. We want to know our teen is trustworthy. by Parenting On Purpose
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Family Fun | Part 1: Why Itâ€™s Important To Have There are so many stressors on every member of the family today, financial, relational, and work/ school related stress to name a few.Â The home is suppose to be an environment that will shield us from those stresses. by Parenting On Purpose
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Dealing With the Cyber Tsunami | Part 2: Itâ€™s A Parentâ€™s Responsibility It is a parentâ€™s job to put the cyber world in its proper place in the family.Â This is one of those important areas to sit and have a parental staff meeting about.Â It must be decided the where, how, by Parenting On Purpose
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Helping Your Pleaser Become A Leader | Part 1: The Pleaser and the Barbarian We have mentioned many times that when it comes to discipline children fall into two main categories, the pleaser and the barbarian. There will be differences from child to child because no two are identical. by Parenting On Purpose
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Taking Your Child From Stubborn to Determined with Torrey Roberts | Part 3: Finding Ways To Use That Determination For Good Things People who are stubborn or determined, sometimes are the type of people who can get something in their head and cannot be swayed from it.Â Another pitfall of this personality type is impulse contro... by Parenting On Purpose
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Teaching Forgiveness | Part 2: Forgiveness Is Not Natural, Itâ€™s A Discipline Forgiveness is a significant part of any relationship, but some areas of forgiveness donâ€™t even seem natural, especially when itâ€™s forgiving someone who has hurt us deeply. by Parenting On Purpose
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