These Vital Signs: A Doctor's Notes on Life and Loss in Tweets
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A doctor reflects on his profession and his experience with patients in this brilliant essay collection that expands on his wildly popular Twitter poems.
In medicine, every patient presents with a story. “Once upon a time I was well, and then . . . ” These patient narratives are the beating heart of medicine; through stories we strive to communicate, to understand, to empathize, and perhaps find healing.
These Vital Signs is a poignant series of essays—deeply personal stories—inspired by nephrologist Sayed Tabatabai’s medical experience and based on a series of poems he posted on Twitter that began going viral at the height of the Covid pandemic. Each short work is a poignant glimpse into the ever-changing field of medicine and the special relationship between patients and their doctor. In each, Tabatabai beautifully evokes the emotional tension between life and death, wellness and disease, uncertainty and hope, in a unique and unforgettable way.
Exploring themes of illness, dying, grief, and joy, universal in its reach, These Vital Signs tells stories both remarkable and utterly ordinary of a doctor and the patients who have shaped him.
Sayed Tabatabai
Sayed Tabatabai is a nephrologist and a writer. He shares most of his work as @TheRealDoctorT with his large audience on Twitter, and his writing has appeared in Medium, Physicians Weekly, and the Wall Street Journal, and on NPR. He lives in San Antonio.
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These Vital Signs - Sayed Tabatabai
Dedication
For all the people who followed me on Twitter and supported my writing.
Without you, this book wouldn’t exist.
And for my family.
All the good in me,
Flows from them.
Contents
Cover
Title Page
Dedication
Contents
Preface
Part I: Beginnings
Humsafar
In His Footsteps
Part II: The Lessons
The Old Surgeon
Truth in the Tracings
The Invisible Milestones
Into the Photos
The Bare-Knuckle Boxer
Of Bluebirds and Bill
Reset
Part III: The Practice and the Passion
These Vital Signs
The Bouquet
Where Hearts Beat Strongly
A Dog Named Tesla
Unexpected Storms, Toy Boats, Safe Harbors
Trivia Like Flowers
What Did It Take?
A Casual Cruelty
Part IV: The Pandemic and the Precipice
The Monster
These Crooked Paths
The Meaning of Loss
No Normal
Mondays and Fridays
The Ghost on the Corner
The Red Car
Bella
The Invisible Woman
COVID-19, 2060
The Hand-Holder
Part V: Endings
The Shoreless Ocean: Life Advice to Students and Learners
Author’s Note
Acknowledgments
About the Author
Copyright
About the Publisher
Preface
It is the summer of 1991 and I am facing off against my most determined foe: the blank page. I’m ten years old, and I have to write a story for a holiday assignment. My grandmother sits on the couch behind me, as I lie on my belly on the floor, idly doodling in the margins of my notebook. I can hear the rhythmic hiss of her oxygen tank. She has idiopathic pulmonary fibrosis, a condition I’m too young to comprehend. Many years later I will understand and write about her illness.
She watches me and smiles. Her voice is weak but still strong enough to catch my ear. If you don’t know where to start writing, start at the beginning.
I answer the way I usually answer anyone at this age, with a question: How do I know where the beginning is?
She laughs. The beginning is where your mind goes to first, when you close your eyes.
Thirty years later, as I sit in front of my laptop, I close my eyes and let my mind wander. I see snow falling gently from cloudy skies and slowly accumulating on a hospital room windowsill.
If my story is to begin anywhere, let it be at the very beginning. I am born in 1980, on a snowy Christmas day, in Baltimore, Maryland. My father is an engineer who is pursuing an MBA at the University of Maryland in College Park at the time. My mother is a teacher who will someday win awards for her work. The nurse brings me out to my family for the first time in a little red stocking. Everyone is overjoyed. I am the answer to many prayers, as I am told years later.
After graduating from the University of Maryland, my father gets a job with an international construction conglomerate. His engineering and business background, along with his coolheaded leadership style and natural charisma, make him a popular man. He is assigned to larger and larger projects in different countries. My childhood is spent crisscrossing the world.
The earliest memory I have is of a fountain, arching high into the sky. So high, in fact, that when I look up at it, I’m convinced it’s going to topple over onto me. It is an optical illusion, but it terrifies me. I’m sitting on my father’s shoulders, and he laughs as I squirm anxiously. We are in the courtyard of some famous Austrian palace. But I can’t see the beauty. I can’t see past my own fear.
There are some things in life that seem so insurmountable they threaten to crush us. As a child, for me, it is the fountain. Years later, as I exit a subway station in New York City on my way to a residency interview, the looming skyscrapers make me queasy. They seem to threaten to topple over when I look up at them, so I force my gaze down at the pavement and try to quell the rising anxiety within me. Old phobias. The past is never far.
I reach the hospital I’m interviewing at for an internal medicine residency position. These interviews are carefully structured and I find myself loathing their artifice. Everyone tells me all the tricks interviewers use to weed out applicants. I have no time for tricks or traps. I bludgeon my way through with brutal honesty.
What do you enjoy doing in your free time?
I write.
Oh? What kind of writing?
All sorts of writing. I write in a journal, on a blog, in a—
So personal writing. Not medical journals.
No, not medical journals.
Years later, I will be published in medical journals. But right now it seems like a gaping hole in my résumé. My written words are valued only by me.
In 2019, I begin to experiment with writing on Twitter. The character limit provides me with a spark in my writing that I have been lacking for years. A way to bring form and structure, a challenge, a forced paring down of my verbiage. I discover that writing on Twitter has its own rhythms and they come naturally to me.
At first, I write as a kidney doctor giving advice. This is recommended to me, to grow my brand.
It is a miserable experience, full of words but bereft of meaning. I decide to leave that voice behind and use my own. Instead of being the physician tweeter, I begin writing as a human being, who just happens to be a physician.
Medicine becomes the lens through which I focus in on life, from the largest sweeping themes to the minutiae that make us who we are. I don’t expect my ramblings to resonate with anyone. Every time I click tweet
I feel like I am sending them into a void from which no response will ever come. But slowly the response begins to build. When the likes start spiraling into the thousands, it feels for me both deeply gratifying as a writer and terrifying as an introvert. Dopamine and disorientation.
I quickly find that my writing is resonating intensely with a wide variety of people. Perhaps because I speak the language of human emotion and loss as opposed to just clinical data, I am inadvertently helping to fill in the blind spots in modern scientific communication from other members of my profession. Whatever it is, it gives me an unexpected platform and the support of thousands of strangers I’ll never meet.
I consider myself extremely fortunate to have had this avenue of self-expression. I can’t imagine my world without it. Three years later, I’ve poured my heart and soul into my writing on Twitter. I’ve managed to make friends and establish myself on a tiny island in the endless ocean of tweets that are generated every day. I’ve written more than a hundred stories and honed my craft in this strange new medium of tweetistry.
For years people have been asking me for a compilation of these stories, something that would save them time and provide a bit of background to the tales.
It is in this spirit that this book is being written, for the people who have encouraged me, shown me such warmth and such love. Without them I would never have kept writing as I did. It is a collection of short stories, and the stories behind them. I hope this endeavor brings you happiness and fulfillment, as it has done so for me, a thousand times over.
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The medical stories I write involve characters that are composites of patients I have encountered over the past almost twenty years of practicing medicine in four different states across America. Names are created and story details are altered to protect privacy, and often are blended from multiple patients—except for my biographical stories; those