From Failure to Success
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Everyone fails, but what you do with that failure defines your future success.
But how do you learn from failure, especially when you're in the midst of it and everything seems to be going wrong?
In From Failure to Success I share with you my process for transforming your failures into success. Failure doesn't have to define you. You can use failure to learn and grow and succeed. You just have to know how…
In this book you will learn the following:
How to be present with your failure emotionally and mentally, without beating yourself up.
How to use the lessons of failure to discover what your next venture is in your life.
How to determine if you should persist with your current venture, or quit and start a new venture.
How to adjust to your situation and adapt it work for you, instead of against you.
Let me show how to take your failures and transform them into the next steps you take toward success.
Taylor Ellwood
Taylor Ellwood is a quirky and eccentric magician who's written the Process of Magic, Pop Culture Magic, and Space/Time Magic. Recently Taylor has also started writing fiction and is releasing his first Superhero Novel, Learning How to Fly later this year. He's insatiably curious about how magic works and loves spinning a good yarn. For more information about his latest magical work visit http://www.magicalexperiments.com For more information about his latest fiction visit http://www.imagineyourreality.com
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From Failure to Success - Taylor Ellwood
Introduction
I initially started writing this book in January of 2018. At the time, I was working at a customer support job after having run two of my businesses into the ground because of a series of bad mistakes and choices I made in 2017. I thought I was ready to write about failure and my come back from it a couple months into my new job, but I quickly realized I wasn’t ready because I was still undergoing a journey that I had only just begun: learning how to cope with a feeling of being a failure and a loser, while also trying to figure out what the next steps of my life were going to be.
I had thought I was just going to pick myself up, dust myself off, and start back into self-employment within a couple months. What I didn’t realize is that I was in a place of burnout. I woke up every day feeling afraid, and each time I even began to contemplate trying to restart my coaching business or teach classes or write a book, I just felt like crawling into a deeper hole and hiding. The last thing I wanted to do or could do was force myself to start trying again with my businesses, or anything else I wanted to do.
I had hit bottom, and even though I was able to write a couple of chapters of the book you’re holding in your hands right now, what I came to realize is that I wasn’t being present in my experience of failure or learning from it. I was just trying to get through it as quickly as possible, even though each attempt I made just exhausted me.
So, I stopped writing this book, stopped trying to restart my coaching business, or create classes, or write a book. Instead, I spent the next half year just giving myself time to be at the bottom and just catch my breath.
It was one of the best decisions I ever made.
I had failed before 2017 and I’ve failed since then, but my prior failures, hard as they were, never really prepared me for how to handle and grow from failure the way I did in the later months of 2017 and the first half of 2018. And the failures that have happened since have been much easier to handle because I know what to look for and because I’ve learned not to sabotage myself with my ego. What I learned about failure, once I really gave myself some space and time to learn, was something so profound. I realized people are not taught how to handle or learn from failure.
We’re either taught that someone who fails is a loser or a quitter or we’re taught that we have to force ourselves to get up, dust off, and try again until we succeed. We’re told to fail forward,
with the idea being that we should embrace failure as a learning opportunity. And while failure can and should be a learning experience, I think we miss out on the most pivotal aspect of failure that ought to be embraced. Failure gives us a reason to pause, reflect, and really hold space with our lives so that we can ask some hard questions and get some better answers than what we’ve previously discovered.
I’m writing this book now in the midst of 2020, which has definitely been one of the hardest years of my life and most other peoples’ lives as we deal with the anxiety and stress of a pandemic, as well as (in the U.S.) one of the most politically charged and polarized elections. It’s been a year where many of us have been taken to the crucible and alchemically catalyzed in the stress driven realizations we’ve had. Some of us have handled these realizations with grace, and some of us (myself included) not so much, because when you’re in a situation where you have so little control it can be very hard to brush up against the uncomfortable truths that we keep from ourselves most of the time. In fact, in times such as these or when you’ve failed, you begin to discover who you really are and you face a crucial decision: Who will you become?
Failure is a catalyst because it puts us into that space of not having control. We intimately come face to face with our weaknesses and fallibility, and have our identities stripped away to uncover the core truths underneath. We can either brush past those truths in an attempt to reclaim some type of identity that protects us from the most revealing aspects of failure, or we can give ourselves an opportunity to truly be present with failure, and learn from it, by actually giving ourselves time to just be in failure. That time can teach us how to reflect on how we’ve failed and what our failure really tells us about not just the situation or relationships we’re in, but also who we really are and who we can really be.
I’ve chosen to write this book now because I think more than ever we need to change our approach to failure. Failure has an alchemy of its own, and if we want to catalyze our mistakes into success, we need to learn how to steep ourselves in the experience of failure, without immediately trying to escape from the feelings and truths we discover.
At the same time, I also share my own process for learning from failure and transforming not just your mistakes into success, but also your very identity. This work is not easy, but it is necessary to truly embrace who you can be and how failure can be the best teacher you ever have.
Failure is an uncomfortable topic, with a lot of negative connotations attached to it. Yet failure is an inevitable part of life. There’s no one alive (no matter how successful) who hasn’t failed at one time or another. Yet learning how to cope with and learn from failure has its own skillset which isn’t taught in school and is often learned the hard way.
If you’re reading this book right now, chances are you’re going through a rough spot in your life. Maybe you’ve just broken up with someone or gotten a divorce. Maybe you lost your job. Maybe your business didn’t work out. Or maybe something else happened. Regardless, here you are in this very vulnerable space, feeling raw, hurt, and perhaps even feeling like your own identity has been stripped away. You’re lost, and figuring out how to go forward can feel intimidating and scary, because when you’re lost and you’ve failed, there’s no easy path forward initially.
I know how that feels. And so do many other people, but in general failure is either glossed over, ignored, or talked about in terms that aren’t always helpful to the person going through the failure. Fail forward sounds great in hindsight, but when you are facing a failure that forces you to look at everything in your life and question every decision, it just sounds like a platitude offered up as a way of saving your feelings, in the hopes that you’ll keep that failure to yourself.
Back in 2017 when I was epically failing, I posted on one of my social media accounts a quote from author Brene Brown that talked about being present with failure, and I shared my own realizations about that quote. A well-meaning friend responded and told me I shouldn’t use the word failure because it’s a word with a lot of negativity.
I thought to myself, "How else am I supposed to talk about this or