Get Your Ex Back or Recover: & Heal Your Broken Heart

By Vincent Bos

Are you suffering from heartbreak? Do you want your ex back? This book will give advice and support on your journey to recover from heartbreak. It's written from personal experience and years of research, in an effort to deliver the best information. The words you read will help you recover from a break-up, and try to help you get your ex back (if you want to). With or without them, you can have a positive future.

• Language: English
• Publisher: Lulu Publishing Services
• Release date: Apr 6, 2019
• ISBN: 9781483499710

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Lulu Publishing Services rev. date:  03/22/2019

INTRODUCTION

Heartbreak is possibly the worst pain a person can experience. It can feel like a combination of grief and drug withdrawal. An explosion in your soul that leaves gaping holes in your life. The flooding of every negative emotion into your mind, body and spirit. As someone reading this book, you are likely feeling this right now, and desperately trying to find a cure for the pain. You might be thinking you already know the cure, getting your ex back.

There is no 100% guaranteed magic formula to get your ex back. However, there are things you can do to give yourself the best possible chance of getting them back. Whether you can or not, this book aims to help you recover from your heartbreak and enjoy a positive future. What you are about to read is based upon years of research and personal experiences. Use this book as a helping hand through the choppy waters of a breakup, but ALWAYS talk with your family and friends about your feelings. If you are feeling depressed, go and see a doctor or counsellor.

There are many steps on the way to recovery. You could be at varying stages, depending at what point you started reading this book. Even if you feel you are at a later stage, it is suggested that you read all the chapters in order, to give you a more rounded opinion of the concepts stated. You will be guided through the reason a break-up happens and how to recover, whilst at the same time trying to attract your ex back (if you want to). The choice of wording just used, attract your ex is important to remember and will be explained in more depth later. With or without your ex, this book will give you advice on how to recover and become an even better version of yourself. The final chapter will give suggestions of how to have a successful ‘first date’, if the next stage of your life is to involve dating new people.

WHY DOES A BREAK-UP HAPPEN?

When someone decides to break-up a relationship, they will generally give a reason. Whatever is said, is very rarely the truth. This could be deliberately, to try and soften the blow, or sometimes they genuinely think what they are saying is true. There is however only one ultimate reason for a break-up, a loss of attraction. This doesn’t necessarily mean physical attraction, although it is often part of it. What is for certain, is that they have lost romantic and emotional attraction to the other person.

Every break-up is unique, but can be generalised to a degree as to why the loss of attraction took place. Break-ups can vary in how much attraction will remain, and whether it is possible to grow again. Loss of attraction is caused because of the actions of a partner, or growth in the person that decides to break-up. In this later instance, a person will grow over time, into a new version of themselves. This new version will not feel compatible with their partner, either because they have stood still, or grown in a different direction.

If you are the person who has been broken-up with, you will be feeling lost and confused as what to do next. Firstly, you need to understand and accept the situation of how your ex thinks of you. Currently your ex will see you at best as a friend, and at worst a stranger. This is something very important to understand, because the plan of action will then make much more sense. With them seeing you as a friend or stranger, you must realise that you can’t just persuade them to take you back. It is impossible to persuade or beg a random person to be in a relationship with you. Your ex now sees you (emotionally) as a random person. All their past feelings towards you, count for very little right now. To get your ex back, you must raise their attraction for you, to the point of where they want to rekindle things. This must be their choice, and their feelings need to grow