Pretty Eyes Pastor
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A story related to Child abuse true stories,Child abuse cases,Catholic church abuse scandal,Catholic priest abuse,Clergy sexual abuse,Priest abuse ,Abuse survivors.
AUTHOR QUOTE: “the first lady danced around in her big beautiful hat shouting aloud in response to her husband’s eloquent sermon as though he was the righteousness of Christ standing in the pulpit when just one day earlier he...”
Pretty Eyes Pastor is based on the true story of Chicago clergy sexual abuse adult survivor Tiffany Denmark. Describing the amazing journey to recovery through church politics, betrayal of trust and emotional trauma after a married Baptist Pastor used church communion wine to intoxicate his young victim before committing abuse after she became intrigued with the beautiful color of his pretty eyes. The Baptist Church hierarchy coerced her to remain silent while the statute of limitations for reporting abuse expired. Many years later she was able to reclaim personal power with EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique) then testified before The Senate and The House of Representatives compelling changes to the laws on behalf of silent victims.
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Pretty Eyes Pastor - Tifffany Denmark
Pretty Eyes Pastor
Pretty Eyes Pastor
Clergy Sexual Abuse
EFT Tapping
Tiffany Denmark
Published by:
J. Irwin Press
Chicago, Illinois
First Edition © 2013 by Tiffany Denmark
Paperback ISBN: 978-0-9911634-1-0
Ebook ISBN: 978-0-9911634-2-7
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Dedication
This book was written in dedication to the adult immigrant survivor who shared her experience of childhood abuse with me. She bore a child fathered by the family pastor when she was only twelve years old but because of a fear of deportation, her family never reported the abuse. By the time she was an adult with sufficient moral and financial support to seek legal recourse the statute of limitations had expired. After hearing this, I was inspired to use my experience of clergy childhood sexual abuse in the Baptist church as a tool to advocate on behalf of silent victims. To the memory of all sexual abuse victims who were not able to overcome their emotional grief and felt that committing suicide was their only route of escape to freedom, may they rest in peace.
Acknowledgements
I would like to thank Lyn Schollett and Polly Poskin from the Illinois Coalition Against Sexual Assault (ICASA) for giving me the opportunity to share my experience during a legislative process and for all of their kindhearted support.
In addition, I must give a special thank you to Attorney Marc Pearlman for directing me down a path of advocacy that allowed my voice to have significance.
Key Discussion Points On Story Facts
GENERAL DISCUSSION POINTS
Proper use of Forgiveness:
Controlled forgiveness with conditions
Emotional forgiveness without conditions
(often induced from spiritual guilt)
Proper use of:
Spiritual Governance in life
Legal Governance in life
PSYCHOLOGY / SOCIOLOGY DISCUSSION POINTS
Different emotional effects with clergy sexual abuse verses family molestation, assault by strangers, etcetera.
Difference between silence, privacy and secrecy
Methods used to shame victim
Methods used to lure victim
Post trauma effects
RELIGIOUS DISCUSSION POINTS
Clergy brotherhood code of silence
Violations of ministerial ethics
Abuse of power
Spiritual abuse
Betrayal of trust
Church politics
LEGAL DISCUSSION POINTS
Violation of public trust
Violation of public safety (child safety)
Church liability (in-state and out-of-state)
Criminal or civil evidence useful for other abuse cases
Criminal or civil violations other than child sexual abuse
Litigation limitations for religious institutions versus schools and other organizations where state regulation establishes minimum standards for employees that have direct contact with children
ALTERNATIVE THERAPY DISCUSSION POINTS
EFT assisted with resolving or decreasing:
Hopelessness
Resentment
Depression
Anger
Fear
REPORT
CLERGY CHILD SEXUAL ABUSE
TO THE POLICE
NOT
THE CHURCH
CALL 911
PERSONNEL LEGALLY QUALIFIED TO EVALUATE CHILD (minor) SEXUAL ABUSE WILL DETERMINE IF THE ALLEGATIONS HAVE MERIT
What Is Child (or minor) Sexual Abuse?
At the extreme end of the spectrum, sexual abuse includes sexual intercourse or its deviations. Yet all offences that involve sexually touching a child, as well as non-touching offenses and sexual exploitation, are just as harmful and devastating to a child’s well-being.
Touching sexual offenses include:
fondling,
making a child touch an adult’s sexual organs or
penetrating a child’s vagina or anus no matter how slight with a penis or any object that doesn’t have a valid medical purpose.
Non-touching sexual offenses include:
engaging in indecent exposure or exhibitionism,
exposing children to pornographic material,
deliberately exposing a child to the act of sexual intercourse or
masturbating in front of a child.
Sexual exploitation can include:
engaging a child or soliciting a child for the purposes of prostitution or
using a child to film, photograph or model pornography.
The response from the child (minor):
Even a child (a minor) who does not understand they are being harmed at the time of the abuse can exhibit negative emotional and physical effects later in life.
Be aware that it is common for those who experience childhood (a minor) sexual abuse to have a very strong emotional attachment to their abuser and may even have a desire to protect them and not demonstrate any fear.
Common signs of abuse:
unexplained injuries,
changes in behavior,
fear of going home or with a particular person,
change in sleeping habits,
changes in performance at school,
inappropriate sexual behavior or play acting out gestures and
please listen and believe until definitively proved otherwise when a child (minor) says they are being touched or are engaging in an inappropriate relationship with an adult.
TIFFANYDENMARK.COM
CHAPTER ONE
LURED INTO ABUSE
Sometimes, the beginning of child sex abuse starts with the abuser finding an emotional path to lure the child
The Sunday evening service ended late at night on the first day of a weeklong revival. The guest preacher had delivered a dynamic message with a catchy sermon title named after one of the latest TV commercial jingles. People had been dancing with joy all over the church. The congregation showed their appreciation for hearing a good sermon financially. When the offering plate was passed around, the ushers had to put their hand on top of the money to hold it down because the bills were piled up high.
The guest preacher was a friend