Beyond Discipleship to Relationship: Developing Intimacy with the Lord
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Anyone who wants to grow and wants to help others to grow in the Lord will find a practical approach within Beyond Discipleship to Relationship. Are you interested in growing a more intimate relationship with Christ?
Think about how you first decided seriously to follow Jesus. Was it initiated in the midst of a crowd or during an intimate talk with one or two other believers?
Beyond Discipleship to Relationship was written to:
inspire individual intimacy with the Lord
initiate shifts or revitalize your lifestyle as an imitation of the Gospel story
delve into particular events in the Bible, pausing for further reflection
nurture desire that others will see Christ in the lives we live.
Psalm 100:5 And His truth endureth to all generations. Gods truth dwells in you. It is my belief that to Gods glory your work will magnify Him. Thank you for allowing me to be a small part of that process.
Raymond Whitaker, Deacon Board chairman and Sunday school teacher, Angel Visit Baptist Church; Essex County School Board chairman
Barbara A. F. Brehon
Rev. Dr. Barbara A. F. Brehon was born and raised in Norfolk, Virginia of the late Richard T. Fields, Sr. and Jerlean W. Fields. As a child, Dr. Brehon found joy and inner peace at her home church, not understanding what it meant to serve the Lord. In her early thirties, she accepted God’s call sitting on a beach at a retreat with the Young Adult Ministry. Later, while attending seminary, she recognized her call to equip believers, which is like being a spiritual body builder. God has majestically interwoven her reading specialist and theological training into creatively sharing his Word for his glory. Laboring for personal intimacy with the Lord, her passion is to help others grow closer to God. She encourages others to recognize their God-gifted purposes and to enjoy the abundance of life in the love of the Lord. Currently retired and residing in rural Tappahannock, Virginia, Dr. Brehon serves as visionary servant leader of Favored by the Father Ministries (a church without walls) and associate pastor of the Beulah Baptist Church. She is also serving in her second year of a three-year term as moderator of the Southside Rappahannock Baptist Association and Its Allied Ministries, made up of thirty-five churches in Essex, King and Queen, and Middlesex counties in Virginia. Dr. Brehon preaches and teaches God’s Word whenever and wherever called to serve. Blooming for Christ completes a discipleship trilogy that includes Reach Me with SMILES: A Handbook for Developing Disciple Makers and Beyond Discipleship to Relationship: Developing Intimacy with the Lord. Each resource offers practical, biblically sound approaches for personal and corporate spiritual growth and are available on her website, www.barbaraafbrehon.com.
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Beyond Discipleship to Relationship - Barbara A. F. Brehon
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Contents
Photographs by the Author
Preface
Acknowledgments
Introduction
Cut Off but Grafted In
Individual Discipleship
I want to grow.
Part 1
Broken Pieces
Shifts in Seasons
Clay Can Be Reshaped
Repurposed Broken Pieces
Purpose and Believing
Distractions and Purpose
Leftovers Have Value
Block Me from Me
Decide to Abide
Temple Maintenance: Be a Body Builder
Connect with Christ
To Know Christ
To Know the Power of His Resurrection
To Know the Fellowship of His Sufferings
To Be Conformed to His Death
Part 2
Build Relationships
Tap into the Power Source
The Best Ministry Approach
Inside Relationships
Get a Grip
Christian Integrity
Christian Identity
Christian Intelligence
Biblical Paradigms
According to Matthew
According to John
The Great Commission According to Matthew, Mark, Luke, and John
A Fruit-Bearing Vision
Biblical Triads
Spiritual Mentoring and Leadership
I want to help others grow.
Part 3
Ministering to Growing Disciples
Attrition
Discipling Dilemma
Stagnant
Getting Started Personally
Getting Started Corporately
Merging Processes
Design
Observations from Experiential Encounters
Summary of the Encounters
Collegial Support
Part 4
Reckoning
Strengths
Weaknesses
Recommendations
Suggestions
Conclusion
There Is a Balm in Gilead
Background of the Lyrics
John 17: Jesus’ Prayer
Appendix 1 – The Seven Session Components
Appendix 2 – Maturing as a Christian
Course Review
Appendix 3 – Maturing as a Christian
Evaluation Form
Appendix 4 – Experiential Encounters Journal
Notes
Bibliography
More from the Author
About the Author
Photographs by the Author
Preface
I have written Beyond Discipleship to Relationship to inspire individual intimacy with the Lord. Many Christians have decided to seriously follow Jesus while meeting in small, intimate groups of people with whom they are familiar. Anyone who wants to grow and wants to help others to grow in the Lord will find a practical approach that can be replicated. This book is not just for ministry and lay leaders but for anyone interested in a more intimate relationship with Christ. I encourage Christians to revitalize themselves by imitating the gospel story so that others will see Christ in their lives. This developmental approach will nudge them toward spiritual growth and establish nurturing partnerships within congregations. Church members will be motivated to become more involved in ministries, and the church will grow from the inside out.
Acknowledgments
I thank my Lord, Jesus Christ, for allowing me to draw closer to him. I am grateful for having had parents, the late Richard and Jerlean Fields, who instilled the importance of governing my life according to a standard of excellence.
I extend heartfelt gratitude to Evelyn Fields, Carolyn Pope, Raymond Whitaker, and Ramona Garner, who read portions of Beyond Discipleship to Relationship and offered valuable reflections. I am appreciative of Gregory Brehon, who allowed me to use his photograph of his winning entry in a pumpkin-carving contest. I also thank Annette Riley, Ette’ Photography, for the photograph used with my biography.
Introduction
I was in church all my life, but I was lonely. I had to decide to do something about my situation because no one was going to do it for me. Change came gradually; it certainly didn’t happen overnight. Looking back, I realize that my circumstances didn’t improve until I got into the Word, studying for myself what it said instead of relying on preachers and teachers to interpret it for me. I was lonely until I started associating with people who were like what I wanted to become. I began taking responsibility for my growth and let others help me. I had to shed attitudes, thoughts, and behaviors as I became aware that they were hindering me. I had to practice being what I hoped to be.
Christians must accept responsibility for their growth. Peter ends his second letter by telling us to grow in grace and knowledge of our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ (2 Peter 3:18). I know that this grace is God’s special gift. He allows us to walk in his favor.
When the soul is at peace, we position ourselves for intimacy with the Lord. Our focus shifts from the concerns that made us seek comfort to the need for divine direction each minute of the day. We can move beyond discipleship to a deeper relationship with the Lord when we sit with him regularly to learn his ways, then practice them. Yes, Jesus is the soothing balm that heals our wounds whether they be physical, emotional, or spiritual. He comforts us and brings peace to the soul. The Lord tells us to come to him when we are weary and burdened because he will give us rest. God wants us to learn from him and find rest for our souls. (Matthew 11:28–29).
Throughout this book, I will offer opportunities for self-reflection in sections headed Personal Points to Ponder.
Cut Off but Grafted In
To become mature Christians, we must be implanted into the Tree of Life. We must be grafted in Jesus. Our faith does this. The idea of grafting came to me from reading Romans 11, which says that the Gentiles came to know salvation despite their transgressions. I thought about being broken and repurposed, and I revisited this narrative. Paul describes the process of salvation, helping us to envision our purpose and where we fit in.
Paul assumed that those living in the region were familiar with grafting olive trees, which I saw all over the Holy Land when I visited. Grafting these trees is a common practice. The wild olive trees are cut back, slits are made on the freshly sawed branch ends, and two or three grafts from a cultivated olive tree are inserted so that the bark from the cut portion and the bark from the branch coincide. The exposed ends are smeared with mud made from clay, then bound with cloth or straw. The fruit obtained this way is good. Wild olives cannot be made cultivated olives by engrafting, as Paul implies, but a wild olive branch can be grafted and thrive. Likewise, Gentiles would flourish spiritually when grafted into the fullness of God’s mercy, first revealed to the world through Israel. Grafting and grace—what an empowering thought! Though broken, we all have a chance to be repaired.
The Jews were like cultured seeds that took root and grew up with a heritage of faithful fathers, patriarchs of our faith. However, the Gentiles were like an attached rootstock. They were a cutting with roots. They were foreign to the faith. Unbelief cuts us off from God, who is our rootstock. Faith grafts us in to salvation through Christ. Whether we grew up in the faith or were grafted in through experience, what matters is that circumstances, our seasons in life, bring us to our purpose for being. We are grafted by grace. At times we must admit our ignorance of what God is doing. We must submit to his will so he can repurpose us, remold us, take our broken pieces, and use them for his glory. Being repurposed is not a bad thing at all. God grants his grace for us to be grafted into his kingdom.
But once grafting takes place, all is not automatically well. There is more work to be done. The grafted branch must be wrapped up, but an opening must be provided for moisture to get in a couple of times a week. The graft cannot produce water on its own. In the same way, Christians must take part in Bible study to be nurtured for effective use in the fields where they are planted.
Looking at this analogy, keep in mind that several branches are grafted with the understanding that not all of them will take root and thrive. You nurture the branch regularly, but you do not pester it by continually pulling at the cloth to see what is going on inside. Pests, weather, and accidents take a toll on new trees, new members, new converts, babes in Christ who may have occupied the same pew in the same church for years. After the grafting, wait a year or so and plant the graft in the orchard with other trees of like kind. In the church setting, help the babe attach to a ministry based on God’s gifts of grace. The graft may not bear fruit for several years, but it has fertile ground in which to grow and to produce every year in its season.
You can take a wild branch and graft it to a cultivated rootstock so that the wild one produces a different quality of fruit. Repurpose it for a new season. That wild branch might be you. Allow yourself to be grafted. Let your untamed nature become wrapped up in someone with roots deeply embedded in the Lord. This will help you stay grounded. As a graft, you are not seasoned or nurtured from the root, but you can become attached to someone with deep roots. As you continue growing in faith, you eventually produce desirable fruit to help build God’s kingdom. Knowledge of God has deep riches of wisdom. (Romans 11:33).
You may find yourself outside of your biological family but grafted into the fellowship of believers in Christ. This is disciple making. Somebody shared with you and listened to you. In turn, you allowed yourself to be the branch grafted into a new lifestyle.
When you disciple others and mentor them, you do not know what will be produced. You plant the seeds, another waters them, and God gives the increase (1 Corinthians 3:6–7). You do not know the outcome, but you must be obedient to spread the Word. When you focus on a mission from the Lord, you see your brokenness differently. It becomes a seed to be nurtured. Brokenness is an opportunity for a more seasoned saint to escort you through your current situation toward your destiny. That brokenness later gives you a tool to connect with someone else and usher that