Everybody Tells Me to Be Myself but I Don't Know Who I Am, Revised Edition: Building Your Self-Esteem
By Nancy N. Rue
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Growing up is tough, especially when you have to deal with peer pressure, changing friendships, and deciding who you really are inside when everything around you (and the feelings inside you) seems to change throughout the day. Bestselling middle grade author Nancy Rue knows what you’re going through, and this book is filled with quizzes, activities, journaling space, advice, as well as quotes from girls who are experiencing the same inner questions—all with the goal of helping you uncover the unique, confident you God made you to be.
Have you ever gotten the advice, “Just be yourself”? But that advice is hard to follow when you’re not even sure who “yourself” really is. Especially when who you are seems to change depending on whether you are with your friends, your family, or your crush. And there are some parts of yourself even you haven’t figured out yet! In Everyone Tells Me to Be Myself but I Don’t Know Who I Am, surveys, helpful tips, interactive journaling space to figure out your thoughts and record your self-discoveries, and quotes from girls asking the same “Who am I, really?” questions combine to help you start your journey toward figuring out exactly who the real you is inside—and the reasons why God created you with the personality, passions, and quirks he did. Because once you discover your true, authentic self, you will want to share it with the world!
Everybody Tells Me to Be Myself but I Don’t Know Who I Am:
- Is written specifically for girls eight to thirteen
- Combines solid advice, meaningful questions, and fun, engaging activities to help middle school and early teen girls uncover who they are inside, and grow the confidence to be true to themselves in any situation
- Contains journaling space directly in the book
- Can also be used in group settings like GEMS, American Heritage Girls, group studies, or mentorship settings
- Comes from the Faithgirlz brand, which presents clean and inspiring books for tween girls
Nancy N. Rue
Nancy Rue has written over 100 books for girls, is the editor of the Faithgirlz Bible, and is a popular speaker and radio guest with her expertise in tween and teen issues. She and husband, Jim, have raised a daughter of their own and now live in Tennessee.
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Everybody Tells Me to Be Myself but I Don't Know Who I Am, Revised Edition - Nancy N. Rue
chapter one
Who, ME?
Molly Ann McPherson trailed her fingers over the contents of her brand-new suitcase:
A stack of neatly folded—and very cool—shorts.
Another pile of matching tops, the cutest ever.
A pink zipper bag with her own bottles of everything from shampoo to orange-flavored mouthwash.
And the perfect stationery—shaped like flip-flops—so she could write home every day.
Her summer dream was packed in that suitcase. But suddenly Molly shivered in a blast of cold fear.
I don’t think I want to go to camp, Mom,
she said.
Molly’s mother looked up at her over the swimsuit from which she was removing the tags. What?
she said. All I’ve heard from you for the last month is how much camp is going to rock.
But I won’t know anybody there,
Molly said. What if everybody thinks I’m a loser? What if I don’t make any friends? What if I get left out of everything?
Molly’s mom shook her head. Don’t be silly, Molly,
she said. Just be yourself and you’ll be fine.
When her mom left to find the sunscreen, Molly stared miserably at the suitcase full of coolness she’d been so excited about.
Be myself? she thought. Who’s Myself?
Was she the Molly who was careful to do only what the really popular kids did?
Was she the Molly who always agreed with her friends about every little thing?
Was she the girl who secretly dreamed of being a famous lawyer, or the one who took piano lessons because her mom did when she was a kid, or the one who refused to cry in front of anybody, no matter how sad she was?
Molly slumped on her elbows onto her perfect stacks of camp clothes.
How am I supposed to be myself,
she wailed, when I don’t even know who I am?
now what?
Poor Molly is having a major case of homesickness, and she hasn’t even left her house yet. But there’s something else going on too, something that can strike any of us, whether we’re thousands of miles from our family or sitting in our own bedroom. It’s an attack of the Who Am I’s?
and it can be pretty scary.
The good news is that this book is here to help you
figure out who you really-deep-down-inside are, and
be that person no matter who you’re with.
It’s like a vaccine against future attacks.
Right now we have our Molly, suffering the worst case of the Who Am I’s?
ever. If you were there in the room with Molly and her suitcase, what would you say to her? Would you give her advice? Or would you be absolutely clueless what to say because you feel that same way…a lot?
Whatever you want to tell Molly, write it in the space below. There are no right or wrong answers, so be honest. If, as you read the rest of this book, you discover something that makes you change your mind about how to encourage Molly, you’ll have a chance to talk
to her again in the very last chapter.
Here’s the Deal
How many times have you heard grown-ups say, Just be yourself
? Like that’s supposed to prepare you for a situation where you don’t know anybody, or you don’t know what you’re supposed to do, or you have that feeling that you are not going to fit in at all.
In the first place, what do they mean by be yourself
? They’re talking about a thing called authenticity. When you’re authentic,
you’re completely honest;
you don’t pretend to be rich, or way smart about something, or totally into horses (or whatever everybody else is into) when you’re not;
you don’t copy the way other kids dress or talk or laugh if it doesn’t feel natural to you;
you go after the things you’re interested in even if nobody else does; and
you make up your own mind when it comes to decisions, according to what you know is right and wrong.
That sounds pretty easy, doesn’t it? You just do all that stuff and you’re authentic.
Yeah, well, if it were that simple, there wouldn’t be this book about it, right? Maybe right this very minute you’re thinking of one of these problems:
What if I’m so honest I hurt people’s feelings?
What if I just do my thing and everybody thinks I’m weird?
What if I always do what’s right, and nobody wants to be with me because I’m too good
?
What if I don’t even know what I like, and what I’m interested in, and how I want to dress? What about that?
Take a big ol’ sigh of relief, because this book is here to help you turn every one of those What Ifs
into a What Is.
You’ll learn how to
be honest and encouraging at the same time;
know what your own unique thing
is and go for it without caring if other kids think you’re weird;
show people that good
is cool; and
discover more and more the special, one-of-a-kind person you are…and love you!
Wait…did we just say you’re going to love yourself? Isn’t that conceited?
Selfish?
Stuck up?
Let’s see what God has to say about that.
GOT GOD?
Even if you’ve only just started thinking about God on your own, you probably know that God-loving people believe God the Creator thought each one of us up, made us, and put us here for a reason. The Bible, where God talks to us, says that over and over. One of the coolest verses is this one:
It’s fun to imagine God’s magnificent hands making an individual person who is totally different from every other baby girl or boy God has created before. Some like to think of God as a potter, shaping people out of clay. God makes a perfect work of art, breathes life into it, and loves it.
God loves what God has made: palm trees, snow leopards, mosquitoes (yeah, even those pesky little critters), and you. God loves you, so how can you do any less than love you too?
It’s hard, though, with the world telling you to pick yourself apart all the time. Are your clothes hip? Is your slang up-to-date? Are you friendly enough, funny enough, blonde enough? We’ll talk