You Sound Like a White Girl: The Case for Rejecting Assimilation

Written by Julissa Arce

Narrated by Julissa Arce

This program is read by the author and includes a bonus conversation with the author and Paola Ramos, a Vice News journalist, MSNBC Contributor, and author of Finding Latinx.

“A love letter to our people—full of fury and passion."
— José Olivarez, award-winning poet and author of Citizen Illegal

"If you could take Rodolfo Gonzales epic poem 'I Am Joaquin' and explain it through compelling, personal narrative in twenty-first century America, You Sound Like A White Girl would be it.”
— Joaquin Castro

Bestselling author Julissa Arce brings readers a powerful polemic against the myth that assimilation leads to happiness and belonging for immigrants in America. Instead, she calls for a celebration of our uniqueness, our origins, our heritage, and the beauty of the differences that make us Americans.

“You sound like a white girl.” These were the words spoken to Julissa by a high school crush as she struggled to find her place in America. As a brown immigrant from Mexico, assimilation had been demanded of her since the moment she set foot in San Antonio, Texas, in 1994. She’d spent so much time getting rid of her accent so no one could tell English was her second language that in that moment she felt those words—you sound like a white girl?—were a compliment. As a child, she didn’t yet understand that assimilating to “American” culture really meant imitating “white” America—that sounding like a white girl was a racist idea meant to tame her, change her, and make her small. She ran the race, completing each stage, but never quite fit in, until she stopped running altogether.

In this dual polemic and manifesto, Julissa dives into and tears apart the lie that assimilation leads to belonging. She combs through history and her own story to break down this myth, arguing that assimilation is a moving finish line designed to keep Black and brown Americans and immigrants chasing racist American ideals. She talks about the Lie of Success, the Lie of Legality, the Lie of Whiteness, and the Lie of English—each promising that if you obtain these things, you will reach acceptance and won’t be an outsider anymore. Julissa deftly argues that these demands leave her and those like her in a purgatory—neither able to secure the power and belonging within whiteness nor find it in the community and cultures whiteness demands immigrants and people of color leave behind.

In You Sound Like a White Girl, Julissa offers a bold new promise: Belonging only comes through celebrating yourself, your history, your culture, and everything that makes you uniquely you. Only in turning away from the white gaze can we truly make America beautiful. An America where difference is celebrated, heritage is shared and embraced, and belonging is for everyone. Through unearthing veiled history and reclaiming her own identity, Julissa shows us how to do this.

• Language: English
• Publisher: Macmillan Audio
• Release date: Mar 22, 2022
• ISBN: 9781250818621

Julissa Arce

Julissa Arce is a nationally recognized author, sought-after speaker, producer, and social changemaker. She is the best-selling author of My (Underground) American Dream and Someone Like Me. Arce is a Crooked media contributor and a frequent writer for TIME Magazine, and has provided political commentary across numerous TV networks including NBC News, Bloomberg TV, CNN, and MSNBC. She is the cofounder of the Ascend Educational Fund, a college scholarship and mentorship program for immigrant students regardless of their immigration status. She lives in Los Angeles with her family.

Reviews for You Sound Like a White Girl

[Francine Reece · Rating: 5 out of 5 stars]

Excellent narrative! This should be a required reading for educators across the country! This should be a required reading for EVERYONE! My hope is that Mexicans continue to MAKE THEIR VOICES HEARD! ??? #BrownLovefromaBlackWoman

[Sydelle · Rating: 5 out of 5 stars]

As a Latina, I’m glad someone is shining a light for us and doing it in such a gentle, yet eye-opening way for those of us that are still in the dark. You made me cry tears of all kinds. Muchas gracias Julissa, por todo el esfuerzo! Espero conocerte un dia!

[Cristina Ortiz · Rating: 5 out of 5 stars]

Speaks a lot of truth
And her stories hit so close to home
I feel that a lot of us immigrant children are growing up to deal with a lot of identity issues and our community doesn’t make it any better when we are told we are not enough
So many props to the author

[Danita Gallegos · Rating: 5 out of 5 stars]

This is everything! As a Mexican woman who grew up in Texas I wish I had this book many decades ago. This needs to be in every history class and every person who calls themselves an American should devour this book.

[wendy · Rating: 5 out of 5 stars]

Great book, some parts are heartbreaking but necessary for people to learn about. Highly recommend