You know what they say: Falling in love is the easy part. It’s staying in love that is hard. The first spark that we experience so intensely at the start fades pretty quickly when you’re peeing with the door open and arguing about which series to watch. In fact, research shows that monotony can creep into a relationship as early as the very first year together.
The good news? That spark isn’t dead – it’s just dimmed. And all it needs is a little TLC to get it glowing red hot once again. We chatted to Shelley Lewin, relationship development specialist and author of Uncomplicated Love: A Step-by-Step Guide for Building a Thriving Relationship, and sex coach Nicki Brivik about how to break the monotony.
Girl, you’re in danger
‘Monotony in a relationship is like a familiar tune playing on a loop: it’s that sense of sameness and predictability that emerges over time,’ Shelley says. At first, it’s your favourite song – you just can’t stop playing it. But after a while that earworm
