What comes to mind when you think about ‘home’? Generally-speaking, an ideal ‘home’ is privately-owned and inhabited by a monogamous couple and their children. Conventionally, this family would be cis and straight – but increasingly, queer couples, too, are building nuclear family homes such as this.
Coupled and nuclear family living is a loving experience for many – but there are other kinds of love beyond romantic partners and family. Ancient Greek philosophy identified several kinds of love, ranging from eros (romantic and sexual), to agape (universal love), to philia (deep friendship).
More recently, the scholar and activist bell hooks argued that “a culture of domination [has raised the] … romantic relationship up as the single most important bond, when of course the single most important bond is that of community”.
Though the mainstream gay rights slogan ‘love
