Firstly, and most importantly, talk about it with your nearest and dearest. It can be a challenging and difficult subject, so it’s much easier to discuss it when everyone is alive and well, rather than after someone has received a life-limiting diagnosis.
Has everyone in your whānau written a will? An Advance Care Plan? Do they have an Enduring Power of Attorney? Does everyone know what everyone else’s funeral wishes are? Are they written down? Are they up to date? Where can you find these documents? Do you really want to discuss these matters with Grandma when she is dying? If not, please do it now. If you haven’t had these conversations already you are risking increased stress, grief, and cost at a time when whānau are barely coping anyway.
The potential aftermath of notjust say “Do whatever you like, I don’t care, I won’t be here” are taking the lazy and selfish option that results in those they claim to love suffering unnecessarily, with fear, stress, possible conflicts, added costs, and huge grief.
