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The Paradox of Grief

Loss often feels utterly isolating, but seeking out connection and support can help you find a way forward, “Dear Therapist” writes.
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Editor’s Note: With Lori Gottlieb on book leave, Rebecca J. Rosen, the editor of “Dear Therapist,” is filling in as The Atlantic’s “Dear Therapist” archivist, pointing readers to some of Lori’s most beloved columns.

To grieve is to encounter a paradox. Loss is an inescapable human experience; most people—and certainly most adults—have

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