WHAT I'VE LEARNT FROM MY DAUGHTER

‘Parenting has taught me to be flexible – you don’t really have a choice!’

Jessica Gois, 32, is a public relations director and lives in Fourways with her husband Don, 35, and one-year-old twin daughters Cali and Sadi.

I always knew that I wanted to be a mother; it was just a matter of when. But I felt I needed to tick a few boxes before bringing children into my life; I wanted to be in a stable and secure relationship and have a career. For me, this would ensure that I could take care of my children in the best way possible and give them a happy home. Don and I had been married for six years and I enjoyed my job in PR when I fell pregnant in 2017.

I always thought that I’d be more suited to be a mom of boys because I don’t really think of myself as being very girly, so when we found out we were having twin girls, I immediately thought, ‘Oh gosh, here comes trouble!’ It could have been that I was dreading the teen years or our future shopping bills; either way, I was a little nervous and had no clue about just how much our lives would change.

THEN AND NOW

Before Cali and Sadi my life was a blur of going to work every