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The Case for Teaching Kids 'Vagina,' 'Penis,' and 'Vulva'

Sex-abuse prevention educators want children to understand that "private parts" are off limits to others. But they also want kids to be comfortable using what linguists call "standard" dialect for these parts, rather than euphemisms and colloquialisms.
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One bright morning in late March, Kate Rohdenburg, a sexual violence prevention educator, sat cross-legged on the floor of a first-grade classroom. In her arms, she cradled two plastic baby dolls, one brown, one beige, each with its own miniature cloth diaper.

Thirty minutes into her lesson, Rohdenburg had already covered several foundational concepts of child sexual abuse prevention -- consent, empathy, body rights, privacy.

"What body parts are the same?" Rohdenburg asked the 22 six-year-olds wiggling around her.

"Face!""Nose!""Belly!""Mouth! ""Toes!" The children called out.

"We all have a heart!" one child shouted.

"They both have penises!" shouted another, eliciting a burst of delighted giggles.

"Do you think?" Rohdenburg asked. "Does have a penis?

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