Forty Days on Being a Four
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Christine Yi Suh says that this has always been a hard question. She writes: "The more accurate question for a Four may be, 'What aren't you feeling?' I can grab my prevailing emotion and tell you how I'm doing from that emotion's point of view (joy, elation, sadness, grief, confusion—you name it!). I live and breathe a kaleidoscope of living, feeling, conflicting emotions."
Many times Fours are labeled "emotionally intense" or "too much," but for a Four this is just how life is. This is why Fours are ideal companions in the midst difficult times: the death of a loved one, the birth of a baby, transitional seasons in career, relational conflict, and so on.
The Enneagram is a profound tool for empathy, so whether or not you are a Four, you will grow from your reading about Four and enhance your relationships across the Enneagram spectrum. Each reading concludes with an opportunity for further engagement such as a journaling prompt, reflection questions, a written prayer, or a spiritual practice.
Christine Yi Suh
Christine Yi Suh is a writer, spiritual director, and pastor. She has previously served as a pastor of spiritual formation and as the assistant director of spiritual formation and care at Pepperdine University. Christine received her MA in theology from Gordon-Conwell Theological Seminary and is a graduate of the Renovaré Institute for Christian Spiritual Formation. She is a regular contributor to Missio Alliance and the Nine Beats Collective. She and her spouse, David, live with their two children outside of Los Angeles.
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Forty Days on Being a Four - Christine Yi Suh
ALL THE FEELS
CHRISTINE, HOW ARE YOU FEELING?
For years, this question has been difficult for me to answer. The more accurate question for a Four might be, "What aren’t you feeling?"
As a Four, I store a complex universe of emotions in my inner being. When asked, How are you doing?
I can grab my prevailing emotion and tell you how I’m doing from that emotion’s point of view (joy, elation, sadness, grief, confusion —you name it!), but at any given time I live and breathe a kaleidoscope of living, feeling, conflicting emotions.
Many times Fours are labeled as emotionally intense
or too much,
but for us it is just simply how we are. We’re comfortable with liminality and in-between spaces. When Fours are healthy, our emotional state doesn’t occupy anyone else’s experience—instead, the multitude of emotions we carry gives us the ability to carry conflicting or contradictory emotions for others. Fours have an incredible capacity to hold space for others in paradoxical and transcendental moments. We are often invited into sacred moments (for example, the death of a loved one, the birth of a baby, transitional seasons in career, relational conflict, and so on) to help others steward these deep emotions fully.
In Luke 7:36-50, an unnamed woman comes to find Jesus. Jesus is dining at a Pharisee’s home when the woman falls to the floor, begins to cry, and kisses his feet. She then pulls out a jar of expensive perfume to pour onto Jesus’ feet, anointing and worshiping him in uninhibited adoration. While the Pharisees and disciples treat her with disdain because of her reputation and actions, Jesus responds with affection and esteem for her.
I love this story. Maybe it’s because I like to think this unnamed woman was a Four—her creative expression in love, her unending desire to be known, her emotional rawness and intensity, and her authentic, unique way of showing up to Jesus. People misunderstood, devalued, and questioned her. The Gospel writer does not even give her name. But Jesus knew her. He dignified her and received her worship, heralding her as a faithful example for the disciples to follow.
Can you identify with the woman in this story? In what ways have you been misunderstood, devalued, or questioned by others?
Bring your weariness and exhaustion to Jesus, trusting that you can be uninhibited and unfiltered in his presence. Take some time to hear Jesus saying to you as he said to the woman, Your faith has saved you; go in peace.
CAN YOU UNDERSTAND ME?
TWO YEARS AGO, Sandra Oh became the first-ever Asian to be nominated for an Emmy Award as Lead Actress in a Drama Series. Oh’s visibility and representation produced a groundswell of joy and pride among Asians. We rallied together to celebrate and giddily reveled in the movement as it flowed across the nation. It felt for a moment that our contributions as Asian Americans, our personhood, our stories, and our work were being seen and valued on one of the greatest platforms in the world. For me, a Korean woman like Oh, this moment felt even more specifically and directly meaningful.
Oh said something during the awards season that struck me. As she sat next to her mom at the Emmys ceremony, she said, It’s an honor just to be Asian.
It’s an honor just to be Asian.
As a Four, one of my core longings and motivations is to be understood. However, my journey as a person of color living out two cultural identities compounds this innate longing. As an Asian American in this country, there are two dominant narratives our community is constantly pushing up against. We are perceived as either the perpetual foreigner or the model minority. A perpetual or forever foreigner is someone who does not belong in America, could never be born here, and does not have the right to call the United States their home. An example of this is being asked at the grocery store, "Can you speak English? Can you understand me?" The term model minority is a myth constructed by white supremacy to pit Asians against other racial groups, claiming that we naturally succeed and have somehow overcome racism through diligence and hard work. These two themes often leave us feeling generalized, diminished, and