An Antidote to Protect Spouses from Divorce

By Muhammad ibn Nasir al-Humayyid

Islam has taken care of the creation of a family, and its noble life in the shadow of the teachings of the highly respected Sharia (Islamic law) and the guidance of the best of creatures, our prophet Muhammad ibn 'Abdullah, may Allah bless and greet him. Truly, he was an ideal example and a great example.

It is deplorable what has spread in Islamic societies in the form of hasty divorce due to causes that can be corrected. Therefore the author thought it necessary to pay attention to this situation - since it has a bad effect on the individual and society - and also to investigate its causes and study the means of correcting it in the shadow of Islamic teachings. And he began to write about this topic, asking Allah Almighty for help, guidance and acceptance, and hoping that the prudent will accept it and act according to it.

 

This is an excellent book for all those who are already married and who are marrying in the near future to get a glimpse of married life and how to live it in an excellent Islamic way.

• Language: English
• Publisher: Al-Jannat Publications
• Release date: Dec 29, 2022
• ISBN: 9798215512197

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Foreword

Praise and thanks belong to Allah. We ask Him for help and resort to His protection from the evil of ourselves and the mistakes of our deeds. No one can deceive the one whom Allah guides to the right path. No one can guide the one whom Allah has led astray. I testify that there is none worthy of worship except Allah. He has no associates. I testify also that Muhammad is His servant and messenger (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him).

O you who believe! Fear Allah properly and die only as Muslims! [1].

O people! Fear your Lord, who created you from one person, created a couple from him and settled many men and women descended from both of them. Fear Allah, in whose name you ask each other, and be afraid to break family ties. Indeed, Allah is watching over you. [2].

O you who believe! Fear Allah and speak the right word. Then He will correct your deeds for you and forgive you your sins. And whoever obeys Allah and His Messenger has already achieved great success [3].

Indeed, Islam has taken care of the creation of a family, and its noble life in the shadow of the teachings of the highly respected Sharia (Islamic law) and the guidance of the best of creatures, our prophet Muhammad ibn 'Abdullah, may Allah bless and greet him. Truly, he was an ideal example and a great example. In the Messenger of Allah is an excellent example for you, for those who hope in Allah and the Last Day and remember Allah much [4]. Whoever desires to live a happy married life must adhere to this straight path and the right path.

It is deplorable what has spread in Islamic societies in the form of hasty divorce due to causes that can be corrected. I thought it necessary to pay attention to this situation - since it has a bad effect on the individual and society - and also to investigate its causes and study the means of correcting it in the shadow of Islamic teachings. And I began to write about this topic in a study that I called: Antidote [5] to protect spouses from divorce, asking Allah Almighty for help, guidance and acceptance, and hoping that the prudent will accept it and act according to it.

First, I mentioned in it the Islamic way of preserving married life. Then I added to it an explanation of the fruits of marriage. After that, I described in detail the reasons for divorce and tried to point out the correction of each reason that can be corrected, explaining the reasons for divorce from the husband's side, then from the wife's side, and then from the side of the relatives of both spouses or other persons. I further clarified the results of the divorce and then gave advice to anyone who might be the cause of the divorce. Then I mentioned what can be done after a divorce as a last resort to repair the fracture, unite the union and mend the relationship between spouses. Then I ended the topic by mentioning what follows after the difficulty of life between spouses, and this is separation, as the Almighty said: Divorce is allowed twice, after which you must either keep your wife on reasonable terms, or let her go kindly [6]. Then I mentioned the injunctions of divorce, and the purpose here is (seeking the favor of) Allah. And may the blessings and greetings of Allah be upon our Prophet Muhammad, his family and companions.

The way of Sharia in protecting married life

Verily, Allah Almighty has established provisions for spouses by which their life becomes right, and their cohabitation becomes long. He also made it binding on each of the spouses the rights that must be observed in relation to each other. We will mention here the body of sacred texts of the Shariah that have clarified these rights. And this is the path that spouses must follow in order to live a happy life.

The Almighty said: According to the established order, wives have the same rights and duties, although husbands are higher in position [7]. The Almighty also said: After that, you must either keep your wife on reasonable terms, or let her go kindly. [8]. Almighty Allah also said: Live with them with dignity [9]. The Almighty also said: Settle them where you live yourself - according to your wealth [10].

It was narrated from Mu'awiya ibn Haida al-Qushayri, may Allah be pleased with him, that he said: I asked: O Messenger of Allah, what right do our wives have? He replied: If you eat, you must feed her, if you dress, you must dress her. And don't hit her in the face and say, ‘Let your face be disfigured,’ (do not revile her) and don't excommunicate her except in your house. [11].

It was narrated from Umm Salamah, may Allah be pleased with her, that she said: The Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings of Allah be upon him, said: The woman that dies while her husband is pleased with her, she will enter Paradise" [12].

It was narrated from Abu Hurayrah (may Allah be pleased with him) that he said: The Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) was asked: Which of the women is better? He replied: The one who pleases (her husband), if he looks at her. She obeys his commands, and does not contradict him either in herself or in her property with that which he does not like" [13].

It was also narrated from Abu Hurayrah (may Allah be pleased with him) that the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) said: If a man called his wife to bed and she refused to come, the angels would curse her until morning. [14].

Talq ibn 'Ali (may Allah be pleased with him) reported that he said: "The Messenger of Allah, peace